life lessons

Perfectionism is a Misnomer

“At its root, perfectionism isn’t really about a deep love of being meticulous. It’s about FEAR. Fear of making a mistake. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of failure. Fear of success.”

—Michael Law

No Mistakes!

And there’s nothing wrong with striving for perfection in our lives. In fact, it’s quite  admirable. However, it’s also important to distinguish between what’s attainable and what is not. More importantly, though, we should refrain from burdening  ourselves with unrealistic expectations—which oftentimes results in failure.

Let’s take a look at striving for perfection through a more holistic approach:           


Perfectionism Chart

I truly believe there’s a special place for perfect people. Having said that, I also believe it’s not on this earth. 

Primarily because . . .

Nobody is Perfect




The Vineyard We Knew

The Vineyard We Knew - Resized Book Cover ImageWe so frequently think of the Black community as suffering from lack of everything: money, self esteem, dreams for the future, that it is good to be reminded that some folk had a different possibility. Martha’s Vineyard offered the community another view of the world. These are serious folk with serious ideas for the future. They are not just sitting on the dock of the bay, as it were. Kevin Parham joins the group of young middle class writers who are flying on the wings of their future while holding tightly to their roots. The Vineyard We Knew is a totally wonderful look at a community that has been much too silent about its contribution and possibilities.

Nikki Giovanni

Poet, Author and Educator


Dealing with CRITICISM


Criticism Image


“If critics say your work “stinks” it’s because they want it to stink and they can

make it stink by scaring you into conformity with their comfortable little

standards. Standards so low that they can no longer be considered “dangerous”

but set in place in their compartmental understandings.”

—Jack Kerouac